Hesitation - June 26

I was at Rev with Mark and Qlass. Later on, Steve and Usman joined us.

As usual, Usman tried to push me to approach sets with him on the dance floor. He would ask me if I was up for it and I would comply unenthusiastically. As usual, I ended up doing nothing. But I also could feel the fear of potentially having to approach & do that Tornado move among a group of girls. This would be a first time (Tornado move) and therefore I felt apprehensive.

Later, this provided me a big insight. One of my main challenges right now with Day Game is NOT approach anxiety but simply hesitation. In other words, it is not that I fear approaching but rather that I merely do not approach or hesitate too much.

On the other hand, I have noticed that every time I do approach during the day, there is NO anxiety before the approach, no anxiety during and anxiety after ONLY IF it was my first time doing that kind of approach.

That means that all Approach Anxiety is gone. In addition, I do know that every time I do approach, all it took is for me to make the decision to approach. In other words, in a split second I make a mental decision to approach X girl and from that point on I have NO anxiety whatsoever.

So, no anxiety before decision was made AND no anxiety after the decision is made.

So, why do I hesitate then? Why don't I approach more??

If a Decision = Fearless Action, then I don't approach more because I haven't developed the Habit of Making more Decisions.

When hesitation is the issue, a Decision is all that's needed. What about when I feel intense fear inside?

I fear when the unknown is present or I haven't acquired enough competence to give me natural confidence.

What I realized tonight is that if I am fully commited to an action, fear will disappear and get out of the way. If I am NOT fully commited, fear will be present.

Full Commitment = Deciding

The key to defeat Approach Anxiety is also taking a Decision. The only difference is that taking a decision will seem more difficult.