Trusting Yourself

I told Mark today that what allowed the top PUAs to pull off things like a day-2 that ends in a f-close IS being completely comfortable with doing the required actions. In other words, if there is any part of our being that doubts whether it is possible, that we can accomplish it, we are ashamed of it or afraid of other's judgments, or lacking in our confidence to do it... then it likely won't happen.

What made me realize this is partly how I approach kino during the day. Kinoing girls during the day does not bother me at all. I feel totally OK with it and comfortable with it. Because of that, there is no awkwardness.

I realized today that in a very profound way confidence simply has to do with Trusting Yourself and Your Abilities. In other words, you trust yourself to implement the knowledge you have, you trust yourself to perform well, you trust yourself to perform well EVEN THE FIRST TIME, you trust that you will succeed.

This concept reminded me of the analogy of the Key. If you try to put in a key in a door hole while shaking your hand, it will be EXTREMELY difficult. But if you look straight at the hole and try to put the key in without hesitation or fidgeting, it MOST LIKELY will work.

This is the same for pickup or anything you undertake. If you attempt an approach or while talking to a girl you hesitate or do not trust your abilities, you will most likely fail. On the other hand, if you trust yourself fully and do not hesitate, you will MUCH MORE LIKELY succeed.

I will create a new theory regarding confidence.

Trusting Yourself --> Focusing your whole being on the present moment (free from the future & the past) and what you are doing --> Appearance of Confidence --> Success